Today, I felt great. Though our faculty meeting took 3 1/2 hours, it was all worth it. We discussed school activities and all. After that, we had an open forum. It was really intense at first but after airing out our concerns and side of the story about a particular faculty member's misdemeanor, everything went well.
It was really a relieved for all of us because we we're able to pinpoint what the cause of the conflict was. It was miscommunication. There was a misinterpretation of the gesture of one teacher towards another. Generation gap was a big factor. The one who was misbehaving and acting inappropriately was much older than we are. So, she couldn't easily get our ideas. In short, we were not jiving at all.
This, I couldn't get off my mind, she told me (and I quote) "You're so honest. Sometimes, you have to do some dirty jobs at work, just make sure you wouldn't get caught." Coming from an elderly, it was a really shocking for me. I mean, I was not raised by my parents to be dishonest. So, at the meeting, I told her that her statement was really disappointing and vague as well.
She explained her side very well so it was all good. She clarified why she has said that. But, my point is, she shouldn't have told that to me. I mean, I expect to hear words of wisdom from her because she had experienced a lot of things in life, unlike me, who just lived in this world for 28 years. But, age is not an issue here, there are people who are young but think maturely and behave properly. As they say, if there's is nothing good coming out of your mouth just keep it shut - less talk less mistake. Words that we say reflect what kind of person we are.
That teacher and I had a conflict to. At one point, I raised my voice to her. It was inapproriate to raise your voice to an older person. I admit it, I was really wrong there. But, there are times or situations that you cannot hold your emotions so they just burst out. When we got to talk, I apologized because I was wrong. I told her that I had a bad and long day and was sorry that I took it out on her at the end of the day. As a person, I know where I stand. If I know I'm wrong, I won't hesitate to make the first move to apologize. But, if I know I'm right, I'll fight for it and stick to what I believe in.
Overall, I was satisfied with how the meeting came out. Differences were resolved and issues were well discussed in a democratic way. So, everybody had a chance to say what's on their mind regarding the conflict that we had. I guess, all of us were gonna be civil to her whenever she approaches us (coz that's how I am with her right now - even after our conflict). However, on my part, I will not initiate to talk and get close to her. I'm going to be civil though. That's the best thing that I can do for now. Though, issues were resolved, I doubt that we will be able to be close to her. Lesson learned - don't assume or anticipate someone's gesture and come up with your own conclusion because everything will be in discourse and conflict will rapidly arise.
It was really a relieved for all of us because we we're able to pinpoint what the cause of the conflict was. It was miscommunication. There was a misinterpretation of the gesture of one teacher towards another. Generation gap was a big factor. The one who was misbehaving and acting inappropriately was much older than we are. So, she couldn't easily get our ideas. In short, we were not jiving at all.
This, I couldn't get off my mind, she told me (and I quote) "You're so honest. Sometimes, you have to do some dirty jobs at work, just make sure you wouldn't get caught." Coming from an elderly, it was a really shocking for me. I mean, I was not raised by my parents to be dishonest. So, at the meeting, I told her that her statement was really disappointing and vague as well.
She explained her side very well so it was all good. She clarified why she has said that. But, my point is, she shouldn't have told that to me. I mean, I expect to hear words of wisdom from her because she had experienced a lot of things in life, unlike me, who just lived in this world for 28 years. But, age is not an issue here, there are people who are young but think maturely and behave properly. As they say, if there's is nothing good coming out of your mouth just keep it shut - less talk less mistake. Words that we say reflect what kind of person we are.
That teacher and I had a conflict to. At one point, I raised my voice to her. It was inapproriate to raise your voice to an older person. I admit it, I was really wrong there. But, there are times or situations that you cannot hold your emotions so they just burst out. When we got to talk, I apologized because I was wrong. I told her that I had a bad and long day and was sorry that I took it out on her at the end of the day. As a person, I know where I stand. If I know I'm wrong, I won't hesitate to make the first move to apologize. But, if I know I'm right, I'll fight for it and stick to what I believe in.
Overall, I was satisfied with how the meeting came out. Differences were resolved and issues were well discussed in a democratic way. So, everybody had a chance to say what's on their mind regarding the conflict that we had. I guess, all of us were gonna be civil to her whenever she approaches us (coz that's how I am with her right now - even after our conflict). However, on my part, I will not initiate to talk and get close to her. I'm going to be civil though. That's the best thing that I can do for now. Though, issues were resolved, I doubt that we will be able to be close to her. Lesson learned - don't assume or anticipate someone's gesture and come up with your own conclusion because everything will be in discourse and conflict will rapidly arise.
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