Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Love and Career

Love and work don't go together for me. It seems that I can't manage both of them. I have to work at it one at a time. The two give me a hard time managing them.
It's difficult for me to set my priorities especially when one matters a lot than the other. Teaching is my passion. I'm fulfilled imparting my knowledge to other people. On the other hand, when it comes to my personal life, it's taking a toll on it. My guy understands how much I love my job (or should I say vocation) but I can feel that he thinks I'm taking him for granted and just focusing on my work. I didn't want him to feel that way. Though he doesn't tell me outright that that's how he feels, I trust my intuition. I can sense it - he's jealous because I focus too much on my job than on him. There has to be a way, somewhere or somehow, for me to make things work between love and career.
Last night, he and I talked. He told me that he wanted us to meet and spend some quality time together because he missed me a lot. These past few weeks, I have been very busy at work. We seldom went out. I told him that I couldn't make it. I was so exhausted and my mind was occupied with lots of things concerning work. I had a long day yesterday. If we had met last night, it would have been a disaster. For sure, he would have told me that " You're physically present but mentally absent." I didn't want him to spend quality time with me especially when I know that I won't be able to reciprocate it.
That's my dilemma. If only I could set my priorities, I bet everything will go well between us. I'm afraid that one day he will tell me that I love my job more than I love him. That's my worst fear.
Well, the best thing that I can do for now is to manage my time. I have to set my priorities, avoid conflicts about love and career, set clear goals on how to make things work out between the two of us, and make him feel that I love him more than my job. But, I can't set aside the fact that I love my career as well. I guess that's the catch of being workaholic. Some aspects of my personal
life has been compromised and affected.
I know that love and career can go together but finding ways how to do it is hard. Honestly, there was time that I wanted to give up on him and choose my career instead. But, it's unfair because I know he loves me. I don't want to put his effort into waste and ignore the fact that he is doing his part on how to work things out for us to have a harmonious and good relationship. I gave him credits for that. Now, I'm hoping and praying that everything between us will turn out fine. I will never stop believing that it will come true and try to do my best to do my part of making it come true.




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